Finding a Mentor

[Nicole]

Hello all, for now I will give the name Nicole. I am 18 and I am in serious need of a Mentor. I've been studying Islam for about a year now and I'm hoping to convert/revert here in a few months. I am super excited!
But the thing is, the only one that is helping me is my boyfriend, and he was born a Muslim but doesn't know much. So I am trying to help him so he can help me too.

I live in a community full of Muslim families, but I am so very scared of being judged because I don't speak much Arabic, I don't know how to pray, I can't really do much. all I know is how to wear my hijab. I try to do these things, but I mess up and feel horrible for not knowing what to do.

I'm in need of a sister to mentor me, but all the organizations I've been on want me to call a 1-800 number and I just cannot do that at this time. I really want a sister I can bond with and one that can show me and teach me new things I need to know. I need a support system as my family and most of my friends are not Muslim.

If anyone can point me in the right direction of where to find a sister, I will be forever grateful. I'm excited to start my journey of Islam, and I hope I can find someone to help me.

Thanks much, Nicole.

[Hiramoby]

Salam Nicole,
Where is your location ?!

[evan]

Hi Nicole, that's wonderful. Welcome to the (very, very big) family! It is very important to have someone you can trust and feel comfortable around when you start learning and integrating Islam into your everyday life—it sounds like your boyfriend is the perfect partner for that.

If you are in Norh America, then I would say you don't need to worry—most North American Muslims don't speak Arabic either! The majority of Muslim communities in the US, for example, are African American, with Pakistani following after that (and they speak mostly Urdu and, of course, English).

The other comment that I would make is: don't feel horrible for not knowing how to do this or that! It is a LOT of learning, but the great thing is that you can take it all incrementally and day by day (adding the next part once you've got a good handle on what you've learned so far). As for a support system, it is good to find a good (balanced, accommodating, moderate) mentor, but don't feel as if you've left your non-Muslim family behind. There are many sayings by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) about maintaining family ties even across religions. Your family, as well as new Muslim friends, are going to be an important part of a healthy, happy Islamic life.

[Rawan C.]

Hello, Nicole, I would absolutely love to help you out!! I am willing to teach you more about Islam. It is absolutely amazing being Muslim and I want the best for you. Please contact me, my email is [e-mail] .

AND I advise you not to wait to embrace Islam! You can die any second now, so it's best not to wait to embrace Islam.

For one to become Muslim is easy, one becomes a Muslim by believing in the Two Testifications of Faith and uttering them with the intention of leaving out blasphemy.



The Two Testifications of Faith are:



I BEAR WITNESS THAT NO ONE DESERVES TO BE WORSHIPED EXCEPT GOD and

I BEAR WITNESS THAT MUHAMMAD* IS THE MESSENGER OF GOD



The first Testification means that no one or thing deserves to be worshipped except God Who is the Creator of everything.



The second Testification states that Muhammad the son of ^Abdullah who was born in Makkah approximately 1400 years ago is a messenger of God. He was sent to convey what God revealed to him so that the humans believe in and work with the Laws he received and brought. He is truthful in all what he conveyed.

The Two Testifications reject the Godhood of anyone or anything other than God. They confirm the Godhood of God (Allaah) only with the acknowledgment of the message of Prophet Muhammad.



*One can say the name “Ahmad” or “Abul Qaasim” which are both names of Prophet Muhammad. If one is unable to pronounce “Muhammad” properly, then one can say “Abu Qaasim” instead.



Believing in all this implies--Allah, the Creator, has perfect attributes, only Allah must be worshiped, Prophet Muhammad, the last prophet, was truthful in all that he conveyed from Allah, all the prophets before him (the first of whom was Adam) conveyed the same message of belief to their people and are to be loved and respected, yet in no way do prophets (or any creation) have Allah's attributes.



A person can become Muslim, as aforementioned in the solitude of a forest or in a crowded subway; he does not need to go to a mosque or have Muslims witness his profession. Allah knows the hearts of His creation. However, when he becomes Muslim he may declare his belief to some fellow Muslims so he will be known as a Muslim among the people.



Anyone who has read this must know if you are not already Muslim you must become Muslim immediately, for you do not know when you will die. To anyone who becomes Muslim while reading this, we advise you to seek knowledge as to the practice of Islam from a trustworthy Muslim teacher. As people go to college to be taught by those learned on different subjects, one should go to a learned Muslim to learn about the practice of Islam. There will always be more to learn and more ways to improve for a devoted Muslim, so arrogance is not a part of a good Muslim's life.





ISLAM IS THE ONLY RIGHT RELIGION. All other religions worship a creation, whether they worship the fire, cows, a statue, person, or a figure of ones own imagination. Muslims say, what is in need is weak and the weak does not deserve to be worshiped. We worship the Creator, who is not in need of anything. God is clear from needing instruments, or organs and anything among his creation. He is clear from getting tired, resting, sleeping, or getting thirsty; these are all weaknesses. The one who needs something is imperfect and the imperfect does not deserve to be worshiped.



I want to teach you more! Contact me at [e-mail]

[nicole]

Apr 3, 2015 1:50:13 GMT -5 Hiramoby said:

Salam Nicole,
Where is your location ?!

Apologies for late reply, America.

[nicole]

Apr 3, 2015 21:33:06 GMT -5 evan said:

Hi Nicole, that's wonderful. Welcome to the (very, very big) family! It is very important to have someone you can trust and feel comfortable around when you start learning and integrating Islam into your everyday life—it sounds like your boyfriend is the perfect partner for that.

If you are in Norh America, then I would say you don't need to worry—most North American Muslims don't speak Arabic either! The majority of Muslim communities in the US, for example, are African American, with Pakistani following after that (and they speak mostly Urdu and, of course, English).

The other comment that I would make is: don't feel horrible for not knowing how to do this or that! It is a LOT of learning, but the great thing is that you can take it all incrementally and day by day (adding the next part once you've got a good handle on what you've learned so far). As for a support system, it is good to find a good (balanced, accommodating, moderate) mentor, but don't feel as if you've left your non-Muslim family behind. There are many sayings by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) about maintaining family ties even across religions. Your family, as well as new Muslim friends, are going to be an important part of a healthy, happy Islamic life.

Thank you so much for this. Sorry for the late reply. But this gave me so much of a push to keep going. I'm so excited and grateful. Thank you!

[Muhammed]

Apr 23, 2015 17:45:03 GMT -5 Rawan C. said:

Hello, Nicole, I would absolutely love to help you out!! I am willing to teach you more about Islam. It is absolutely amazing being Muslim and I want the best for you. Please contact me, my email is [e-mail] .

AND I advise you not to wait to embrace Islam! You can die any second now, so it's best not to wait to embrace Islam.

For one to become Muslim is easy, one becomes a Muslim by believing in the Two Testifications of Faith and uttering them with the intention of leaving out blasphemy.



The Two Testifications of Faith are:



I BEAR WITNESS THAT NO ONE DESERVES TO BE WORSHIPED EXCEPT GOD and

I BEAR WITNESS THAT MUHAMMAD* IS THE MESSENGER OF GOD



The first Testification means that no one or thing deserves to be worshipped except God Who is the Creator of everything.



The second Testification states that Muhammad the son of ^Abdullah who was born in Makkah approximately 1400 years ago is a messenger of God. He was sent to convey what God revealed to him so that the humans believe in and work with the Laws he received and brought. He is truthful in all what he conveyed.

The Two Testifications reject the Godhood of anyone or anything other than God. They confirm the Godhood of God (Allaah) only with the acknowledgment of the message of Prophet Muhammad.



*One can say the name “Ahmad” or “Abul Qaasim” which are both names of Prophet Muhammad. If one is unable to pronounce “Muhammad” properly, then one can say “Abu Qaasim” instead.



Believing in all this implies--Allah, the Creator, has perfect attributes, only Allah must be worshiped, Prophet Muhammad, the last prophet, was truthful in all that he conveyed from Allah, all the prophets before him (the first of whom was Adam) conveyed the same message of belief to their people and are to be loved and respected, yet in no way do prophets (or any creation) have Allah's attributes.



A person can become Muslim, as aforementioned in the solitude of a forest or in a crowded subway; he does not need to go to a mosque or have Muslims witness his profession. Allah knows the hearts of His creation. However, when he becomes Muslim he may declare his belief to some fellow Muslims so he will be known as a Muslim among the people.



Anyone who has read this must know if you are not already Muslim you must become Muslim immediately, for you do not know when you will die. To anyone who becomes Muslim while reading this, we advise you to seek knowledge as to the practice of Islam from a trustworthy Muslim teacher. As people go to college to be taught by those learned on different subjects, one should go to a learned Muslim to learn about the practice of Islam. There will always be more to learn and more ways to improve for a devoted Muslim, so arrogance is not a part of a good Muslim's life.





ISLAM IS THE ONLY RIGHT RELIGION. All other religions worship a creation, whether they worship the fire, cows, a statue, person, or a figure of ones own imagination. Muslims say, what is in need is weak and the weak does not deserve to be worshiped. We worship the Creator, who is not in need of anything. God is clear from needing instruments, or organs and anything among his creation. He is clear from getting tired, resting, sleeping, or getting thirsty; these are all weaknesses. The one who needs something is imperfect and the imperfect does not deserve to be worshiped.



I want to teach you more! Contact me at [e-mail]

[Muhammed]

Assalamualaikum Nicole ,

Please,Please,please remember us all, in your Dua for the forgiveness!!

Jazakallah Khairan(may Allah reward you with the Best good)

[Muhammed]

Assalamualaikum,

@rawan C :I'm sorry I have edited your post by mistake,first time using this forum

Jazakallah Khairan

[salman75]

Assalam U alikum nicole If you want you can email me my email is [e-mail] I would love to be your mentor