Post by KR2021 on Feb 4, 2021 7:59:47 GMT -5
I was hoping for some advice. I am a non-Muslim and I have been with my Muslim partner for a long time. I have always wanted to marry him. At first he said I didn’t need to convert but the children would need to be raised Islam which I agreed with. However he is now saying in order for him to marry me I must convert. I already fast with him during Ramadan and I have read the Quran numerous times and have really tried to understand the religion. I do want to marry him and I am open to converting but do not want to be forced in such a decision. His parents say I can only marry him if I convert but they also say I must be converting for myself so I feel confused as it can’t be for myself if the only way I can marry him is if I convert. My mother is upset I will be giving up my religion but she has always wanted me to be happy and says she will support me no matter what. However his family are also saying if I convert I must cut all contact with my family even though my mother has said she will never stop me practicing Islam and will be supportive. I have grown up with Muslims all my life and my mums best friends are Muslim. I feel like I am being pressurised to give up my religion now when I do not feel ready and I am being given an ultimatum to lose my family. When I speak to my partner he gets angry and says I should care more about his parents than my mother and he will go along with whatever his parents want. He also said he won’t leave his parents so if I don’t convert he will leave me. I also get the impression they are embarrassed of me as they said they do not want anyone to know that I am a convert and I must not wear any of my traditional Indian saris so no one knows that I am Indian which really upset me. I was interested in Islam but I feel very confused. Islam to me was a religion of peace and when I say things I have read in the Quran that contradict what they are telling me they say they are very traditional and tradition is also important to them. I don’t want to lose my partner but I feel I have no support