Post by Hasana on Aug 2, 2017 9:08:01 GMT -5
I am Am reverted for 2 year now ( feels like muuuuch longer ) and Alhumdulilah i am happy to be a Muslimah ! But I wish to talk about some things that I can't talk to anyone about ..
Such as it will be very lonely .
When you convert everyone is really nice But soon after you are just another forgotten person and everyone expects you to know what your doing right away . There is a lot of Cliques specifically Race cliques . Each race stay to them selves . I haven't met many Spanish Muslim but the one I meet I can't relate to at all because they think I'm to strict Even tho I'm not ? I'm just following Quran and Sunnah . I try my best for Islam and I don't act like I know the best . I just stick to the facts.. Everyone knows someone expect for you . whenever people talk to you it's more like they are curios about you . They ask so many question and even give you the number to talk but arent interested in Realy being your friends . It's happened to me several times they give the # then when I text no response . It's safe to say that it's not me 😂 I'm not that unbearable . ( or atleast I don't think )
Another thing is that they promote interracial marriage without telling you the Extent of the difficulty you will face . I am a Dominican Sister who married with a Yemeni and although i love him it's very hard because we are VERY Diffrent . He is The REAL sctrict one . where as I have a modern take on Islam . His culture affects how he interprets Islam .we often argue about it because I always tell him I can Be Muslim but I can't be Arab . I feel like he doesn't really accept me for me and instead wishes to mold me into a Yemeni girl . I mean .. marry that if that's what you wanted . I'm not saying he's right or I'm right . Just that I thought he was more open minded then what he revealed himself to be since he married a Spanish Women . Some of his family acts like I don't know how to do anything ( Cooking or speaking Arabic ) and it really bothers me . Because I am very proud of my cooking . I have learned how to make all kind of Food and my husband loves how I make Arabic food . But when they come They seem like they don't want to eat it because it was made in the " Spanish way " even if it's Arabic food . They ask me milllion questions About my old life it's uncomfortable because i left it behind I don't want to Talk about it . My story to Islam is okay to speak on but not about what Sins have I done before . It's always an interview when I go to the house and it sucks . They think I don't know how to Speak Arabic at all & laugh about me when I do Something in a diffrent style . Not in a malicious way but it doesn't feel good to be the Butt of a Joke .
Lastly . Whenever you want to Figure out how to solve a problem With marriage or other things there is only male scholars who's opinion is extremely biased . They always take the side of the husband and some make you out to be the terrible one for Even having a problem .
That's all .
Ma Salama ( Bye ) & Jazak Allah Khair for reading my rant .
Such as it will be very lonely .
When you convert everyone is really nice But soon after you are just another forgotten person and everyone expects you to know what your doing right away . There is a lot of Cliques specifically Race cliques . Each race stay to them selves . I haven't met many Spanish Muslim but the one I meet I can't relate to at all because they think I'm to strict Even tho I'm not ? I'm just following Quran and Sunnah . I try my best for Islam and I don't act like I know the best . I just stick to the facts.. Everyone knows someone expect for you . whenever people talk to you it's more like they are curios about you . They ask so many question and even give you the number to talk but arent interested in Realy being your friends . It's happened to me several times they give the # then when I text no response . It's safe to say that it's not me 😂 I'm not that unbearable . ( or atleast I don't think )
Another thing is that they promote interracial marriage without telling you the Extent of the difficulty you will face . I am a Dominican Sister who married with a Yemeni and although i love him it's very hard because we are VERY Diffrent . He is The REAL sctrict one . where as I have a modern take on Islam . His culture affects how he interprets Islam .we often argue about it because I always tell him I can Be Muslim but I can't be Arab . I feel like he doesn't really accept me for me and instead wishes to mold me into a Yemeni girl . I mean .. marry that if that's what you wanted . I'm not saying he's right or I'm right . Just that I thought he was more open minded then what he revealed himself to be since he married a Spanish Women . Some of his family acts like I don't know how to do anything ( Cooking or speaking Arabic ) and it really bothers me . Because I am very proud of my cooking . I have learned how to make all kind of Food and my husband loves how I make Arabic food . But when they come They seem like they don't want to eat it because it was made in the " Spanish way " even if it's Arabic food . They ask me milllion questions About my old life it's uncomfortable because i left it behind I don't want to Talk about it . My story to Islam is okay to speak on but not about what Sins have I done before . It's always an interview when I go to the house and it sucks . They think I don't know how to Speak Arabic at all & laugh about me when I do Something in a diffrent style . Not in a malicious way but it doesn't feel good to be the Butt of a Joke .
Lastly . Whenever you want to Figure out how to solve a problem With marriage or other things there is only male scholars who's opinion is extremely biased . They always take the side of the husband and some make you out to be the terrible one for Even having a problem .
That's all .
Ma Salama ( Bye ) & Jazak Allah Khair for reading my rant .