Here to make revert friends male/female & be there support

[salman75]

Assalam U alikum, I am a born muslim. I recently got a chance to travel to USA and there I saw something that shocked me and made me sad too.  During my stay I met a few reverts brothers, and a sister. After talking to them I realized that these reverts are not in the happiest of places but for the love of allah they are staying storng. No one wanted to have them around specially the born muslims from the asian origin from where I belong too. I am  Pakistani. there was one revert brother who told me that he is been practicing now and active in te mosque but no muslim family wants to give theirdaughters hand in marriage to them as they think he is not a good enough muslim which just made me sad and angry. Who on earth gave us the right to judge people if one has declared shahada then who are we to tell them you are not a good enough muslim. It also got me thinking that If brothers are having so much trouble the sisters would be having alot more trouble since this world is sadly gotten male dominated to the point that no matter what man is always right. Though I not only disagree that man is always right but at the same time I say that don't judge someone based on their past. When allah has forgiven thier past and wiped their slate clean the day they came into the fold of islam then who are we to judge who gave them this right. And at one point and time everyone is a convert. Be it you are and arab indian pakistani or any nationality your ancestors converted at some point and time and now you consider it as your born right . and look down upon new converts is just sickening. Lastly I was told that during the month of ramadan and Eid the converts find them selves the loneliest. SO Since it is ramadan and eid is soon to follow I would like to extend my support and friendship to any convert out there looking for a friend or someone to talk to or share their days with or just vent. I am here to hear you out you can even send me a message if you dont feel comfortable talking about anything publicly. I hope I can prove to be of some help from this platform. Looking forward to meeting and making new friends ! Assalam U Alikum

[Regina]

I am a Muslimah that converted from atheism not long ago. I am feeling especially lonely during Ramadan. I feel like it is only me and Allah. I have one Muslim friend named Fatima that has taken me under her wing. She is the same age as my mother but i still see her as a friend. She is very busy now volunteering and working and I am very busy with both my jobs as well. I feel like the other women close to my age (21) in my mosque are very standoffish. A lot of them are Saudi and Muslim born so they tend to clique up. The only women I find friendly are over 30. I feel like an infant learning a new, language,culture,mannerisms. Islam is supposed to only be about Allah not all these culture/race dynamics. I am also struggling with lifelong depression but Allah is helping me with that. Im hoping to start searching for a husband in a few months most likely a convert so we can go on this journey together and build our deen with Allah.

[salman75]

Dear Sister Assalam U alikum I am not a revert but if you want to talk to a born muslim you can totally email me and I would love to be your friend and support till you find a husband or are sure about when to marry. I too am looking for a revert wife so that I can support her and teach her deen along the way.But since you aint sure when you want to get married so I guess it would be inappropriate to propose. Because I would like to take your lovely time to think about it and be sure when you want to get married. As marriage itself is a big commitment for life. And I will not marry just any random person unless I know a little about her and see we are compatible. But you can always email me at [e-mail]. I would love to be your friend and support in the meanwhile oh I am 24 yrs old so not so old. someone from your age group. Looking forward to hearing from you and hopefully giving you the support I can over emails.

loads of prayers your way.
Salam
Salman

[janhasx3]

@regina sister !! I wish you will read my post I have described exaaactly what you have said . And maybe I have advice on marriage for you too .

Inshallah It will help you and maybe we can Become friends too 💕

[Nadia]

My dear,

I find that life as a Muslim in the US is lonely for a Muslim woman. It’s difficult to create a family like environment with other Muslims because there aren’t many and of course can’t hang out with those from other religions due to Alcohol consumption and cultural differences. Marriage is of course a solution but it’n not that easy to find a partner if your surrounding is limited and you are over 40. Unfortunately, once you reach 40 in the Arab culture, your chances at finding happiness are extremely limited, perhaps that is why most sisters look for converts ... to avoid cultural and unnecessary judgement. Although i’m still looking and didn’t give up on finding happiness someday, I found peace in God and his prophet’s (saw) teachings.

Wish happiness to all ...